Wednesday, January 2, 2013

If You Can't Say Something Nice


What an inspiring way for my year to start! A lovely lady decided to send me a note today telling me that everything I make is "bad, bad quality" and over priced that only a noob would buy it. Now after spending the last 4 days trying to rebuild my store... this is quite the bit of encouragement that I was needing!

To be fair I had realized that a lot of pieces were out of date, seriously, I was looking at some of my very 1st fireplaces, and yeah, they look a bit dated... some even still had some poseballs on them! Some I didn't even bother to put back into the new store. So she is right in her assessment of some of my pieces - I will give her that much. I have been doing this since 2007 so yeah, the times are changing and many pieces probably do need to be retired. (*note to self* be sure and update marketplace once you finish building all those free items for hunts).

I just felt the need to remind people that they probably should mind their own business. There are people with feelings behind these avatars. She doesn't know what I have experienced in my RL over the last year. She doesn't know that I'm a single mom that works full time to support her family. That I had seriously considered leaving SL over the last 6 months. That last spring I spent most of my free time trying to learn Blender so that I could better create my designs because I had been feeling inadequate. That my world recently changed to the extent that might not have RL work in a few months. It was a lot to deal with, and I took a few days from work to de-stress, and promptly lost myself in my shop re-building.. enjoying the building like I hadn't done in several years. I was excited to come home today and try and finish up the work and reopen the shop.

So to log on today and get her note... I suppose I should be grateful that I didn't find that 2 weeks ago when I learned of my company's buy out. I was feeling inadequate in RL with my work position and NOW I learn how inadequate I am in SL as well.  But the week long rest helped me to accept her note and to even agree with her (on some items). If I had received her note then in the fragile condition I was in at that time.... I don't know what my response would have been.

But today, I feel energized, and happy, (I even wore my Wonder Woman bracelets to work). I don't know why this woman felt the need to give me unsolicited advice on how I run my business and design things. I will accept her critique in the manner I "hope" she gave it. But I still think Thumper's dad had the best advice... "If you can't say something nice.... don't say nothing at all."



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